why can't i do whatever i want

Does your child often refuse to listen?

In fact, there are reasons why children cannot listen to adults...

Unique dual-situation design teaches children "self-discipline" and "reflection" abilities

"Hmph! Why do children have to obey your adults' rules?"

Yoyo is a child who wants to do whatever she wants.

He often finds it annoying for adults to meddle with things.

until one day,

Only then did he realize that he could not "just do whatever he wanted"...

◎Children who rebel and refuse to listen may be imitating adults!

As children grow up, they will imitate the tone and habits of adults. If adults often directly refuse, scold or confront others in upbringing, children will learn their tough attitudes and methods. If that doesn't work, they will use their emotions as weapons. Over time, children will imitate their adults' speaking tone and habits. , develop the bad habit of talking but not listening.

Children learn good things slowly and learn bad things quickly. We adults should pay more attention to teaching methods and don’t let children who don’t understand right and wrong imitate everything!

◎Children love to say "no", how to focus parent-child communication?

When encountering something that adults say is not possible, but children still insist on doing it, we should not start with "no", change the way we speak, and try to use "you can..." like Lele's mother, so as to deepen the child's understanding of "can" "thing" impression. Parents should increase empathetic parent-child dialogue skills to reduce their children's "ego" and "desire for control" and increase their ability to empathize.

◎ Cultivate children’s ability to self-discipline and reflect

When children grow up, we cannot always be by our side to help them make decisions and give opinions. What they need is to hone their ability to self-discipline and self-reflection, to distinguish right from wrong, and to adapt to more people through practice and experience. So even if you don’t agree with your child’s ideas, don’t rush to deny him. Adults should try to guide their children to judge and make decisions, and let them learn to think about problems and make choices on their own. This is “education”!